Apostle Grace Lubega
1 Corinthians 13:3 (KJV); And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
An enabler is another personality trait in psychology. Enablers are people with a self-centred love. More than just this misguided love, they generally live under the deception that they can please everyone.
As revealed by our theme scripture, an enabler may give you all that he has and even give his body to be burned for your sake when such a man does not truly love you. What may look like love because of its propensity for self-sacrifice may actually be nothing more than enabling in action.
Enablers expect praise, rewards and dependence. They thrive on other people’s appreciation and will go to unimaginable lengths to win it. An enabler will gladly feed your vices as long as he keeps you utterly dependent on him. These may be financial vices, personal health vices or career vices.
It is the common mantra of enablers to claim that love is blind. So, with wilful blindness, they ignore the self-destructive tendencies of the people they are trying to help. They do not do this out of love in its purest form but out of a deep, sometimes unconscious need to be needed.
If you find a perverse kind of satisfaction in the thought that someone struggling with weakness cannot accomplish much without you, you may want to check your heart.
God is love (1 John 4:16). If you think love is blind, remember that God is not blind. He has called us to a life of wisdom. As we extend grace to the world, we ought not to fan the flames of other people’s personal weaknesses but to give them the tools to overcome weakness and depend, not on us but on God alone.
FURTHER STUDY: 1 John 4:16, John 12:43
GOLDEN NUGGET: God is love (1 John 4:16). If you think love is blind, remember that God is not blind. He has called us to a life of wisdom. As we extend grace to the world, we ought not to fan the flames of other people’s personal weaknesses but to give them the tools to overcome weakness and depend, not on us but on God alone.
PRAYER: Loving Father, I thank You for this truth. I thank You because You have enlightened my spirit with the meaning of true love. I love unconditionally in the revelation of what You define as love, not as a man seeking the praises and dependence of others but one perfected in the love of the Father. In Jesus’ name, Amen.